By: Salma Rumman ( View Profile)

This advice was passed along to me from a counselor; it was great to hear so I wanted to share it.

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve

then heck no, you can't "be friends."

A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself

a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.

He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,

Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has

more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.

All men are not dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about

baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists

of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.

Dating is fun; even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you're

always readily available to him—he takes it for granted.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies.

You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate

them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget them.

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Got this from, someone..who asked not to be named.. haha

well it is interesting to share.. i know most of my friends are guys, so it won't hurt for you guys to read this as well.. so that they know how to treat women.. and well.. not to be sexist.. but women should know how to treat men as well, and i agree it is a two way street and compromise is important in any relationship not only in love..

currently doing some research on thalassemia, anaemia and allergy reactions, i don't know why i had the sudden thought to blog about my non tolerance to ciggeratte smoke, but to blog about that, i need to research and blog about my condition as well... i have to go to the root of it all.. and well, i guess the magazine at the dental clinic started the ball rolling here haha

wish me luck in my research, i haven't done such things since SAM 3 years ago, and i feel like i'm writting a biology paper, for a project or something.. thanks goodness i have the biologist satoshi kun to aid me hehe but i don't know how and when to start, and osme of you may know that i don't do a "rangka/structure" for my essays.. so attempting to do one now haha..

that post may be quite lengthy.. so err.. if you are just passing by or have no interest its fine by me.. but first i will have to get started on writing it.. :p

-Oracl3-