Disclaimer: This doesn't apply to all men, but men in general, especially those egoistic chauvinistic ones... i know not all men are like that....

[This is do damned funny --> Politicians turned blogger, by Kenny Sia]

Just the other day I went to Kenny Sia's blog and he wrote a really touching letter to his deceased father on the fact that it was his dad's 3rd death anniversary. It was honestly really touching, and it can really bring you close to tears...

So why then am i blogging about that? well in that letter to his dad he said something about his dad working so hard and his mom would still make the house feel like home, and he went on to say that, women now a days don't like men who are so career minded... so he said his mom was a great women...

Well, I'm sure his mom is a great person, as are all our moms, but I digress, that isn't the main reason why I'm writing this post...

it's the fact that Kenny Sia said that most women now a days, don't like men who are too career minded....

I personally, agree with that, and I'm sure many urban ladies would agree too, we don't need a men who is career minded.. Times have changed from our parents time...

During the old times, it would be good to get a man who is career minded, who thinks of nothing but earning a living to support the family, and make life better... and the wife stays at home to look after the kids and do the house chores..

Well, it's a wake up call for the men, those days are GONE!! yes-siree.... Long gone....

It will be mighty difficult for a men to find such a women anymore.. in the old days, women wanted a man with a stable job, stable income....

Today.... it's totally different, the reason why women now a days don't like career minded men is because of one reason only, we don't need a career minded man, because we have our own careers.

We don't need a man to support us, we don't want to stay home and cook and clean and look after the kids... ladies these days, have their own career, heck if you want to talk about ladies not wanting a career minded man, it's the same with men not wanting a career minded women... we don't want a men who is egoistic and chauvinistic.. and let's admit it, urban ladies, especially those with a degree and a professional job are also egoistic and chauvinistic like the men, though not as much, but we still are. (we may vary in chauvinism based on our upbringing, but it's basically the same.... we don't want to be short-changed...)

It's the exact same thing, women now a days, expect more equality, she isn't about to do all the house chores for you, if you want a women to do that, hire a maid, if not, share the workload. if you don't know how to cook (sadly, a lot of urban women now a days don't know how to cook...), then wash up after dinner, don't just sit down in front of the television and read the papers... men now a days (well for the younger generation that is) are no longer the man of the house... it's an equal share with the woman of the house. (heck, even in my home we have that compromise....)

What women look for in a man these days, especially urban women, with a degree and a career or a prospective one, is not exactly stability, (though it's one of the factors) and well, not really the man's income...(though it would help if he earned either the same or more, and well let's face it, how many men can take it that their women earn way more than them?) they just want companionship, that's why we don't want a career minded man.. a stable relationship is what we want, a man that won't cheat on us, who is dependable, loyal & caring, who will share the workload and the bills, who will have his share in looking after the house & kids as well... it is a bonus if he has a stable income to help supplement ours.

If your career comes first, and you come home late every night, where is the companionship? it defeats the purpose, by the time you are home, the kids are already in bed.....

So, sorry men, you guys have to stop staying in the stone age, grow up and see where the women are now...

A lot of men are looking for wives from Cambodia and Vietnam because they can't adapt to the urban ladies, who only need them for companionship... it's a bruise to their ego, well one day, they won't have a choice.... and thankfully, there are still those who can adapt.... now I just need to find one that has adapted, and who has or will get a prospective stable job with a decent income haha...

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Now we know why so many developed countries are having lower birth rates and lower marriage rates... it's because the men are chauvinistic and can't except that women are on par or at least almost on par with them, and still expect the women to just have babies and stay home.

Whereas women are becoming more independent, and more out spoken, women have also become chauvinistic in a certain sense, that they won't except less. Women no longer want to be short changed as we have been this past few centuries, and thus fight more for what she wants.

It makes it so hard to find a man for us women, most if not all of us, being practical, and understanding the male's chauvinistic nature, and who wants a long lasting relationship, have to look for a guy who has an education/job/career which is either on par or above them (unless we are so lucky as to find a man who doesn't really mind not earning as much as his women...)... who will accept them as a career women...

But then again... as said before, women are hypocrites, and well, no matter how much equality we want, we still expect the man to look after us...

How do i put it?

It's like.... if we don't have a man, we are totally fine on our own, we can take care of ourselves.

But if we do have a man, we want him to spoil us silly and take care of us..

Of course it is a two way relationship, but see where the difficulty arises? not many men are willing to do that, and no matter how much they deny it, in their own way they are still egoistic and chauvinistic, which makes the relationship kind of hard, unless both sides are willing to compromise, it's like being in a relationship with two stubborn people.. how do you expect it to survive, unless there is tolerance and compromise...

So we will just have to see, how couples work it out... There have been some who have been lucky, some who haven't, but it is a fact that urban ladies expect the urban men to be of a more "higher quality" having a good job and stable income is no longer the only main requirement; good companionship and loyalty are really big shoes for the men to fill...

-Oracl3-