tsumetai? watashi ga? maasaka....
Cold? Me? No way...

Its 930pm and I'm on the train with my friends coming home from class, when we see this guy, presumably African, or from that region, but definitely a foreigner... Talking to a lone Chinese girl.

Earlier observation (he was on the escalator in front of us) told me that he doesn't know the girl, as he was alone earlier.. and well the conversation isn't one you have with a friend, but more like someone you just met...

First, we give him credit for daring to approach the girl.. second, we shake our heads, because he doesn't know our Malaysian culture... he is a foreigner anyway..

He goes on to ask for her number, and this and that.. and we hear the girl says, I'm actually married...

My friends and i, who noticed what was going on, listened from time to time... and started our own conversation based on what is going on.. (we were thinking of "saving her" but it was too late for such a move, as we realised what he was doing too late.. or we could have just called her over..)

Methods of how we would get rid of a guy who just came up to us to talk like that, came up between us.. read as, how to get rid of guys simply picking up girls... (i guess if he was drop dead gorgeous that would have been another story, but then again, guys like that, don't have to pick girls up on the streets/trains now do they? haha)

We talked about, getting off at a station and catching the next train, telling him lies, like I'm not available, giving him a fake email, and the list goes on...

It is kind of hard to just refuse outright to talk to them (For the sake of courtesy..).. so what is a girl to do? I wonder, can that actually be considered as harassment? Since it does make the girl uncomfortable... (anyone to answer that?)

A scene like this in Malaysia, feels really out of place, but overseas, i don't find it that weird, but in Malaysia, where crime rates are so high, i don't think you can blame us females for acting all cold like that.. and blowing the guy off.

How can we not be cautious, when even boyfriends rape their own girlfriends? --> gang rape
Can you really blame us? And as i just found out, stun guns are illegal in Malaysia (courtesy of Simon) and well the only legal weapon we can use here is the pepper spray.

But tell me, how fast can we reach for our pepper spray? (especially if it's someone we know? most rapes from my knowledge are done by people known to the victim.. now, who would expect to use the pepper spray against someone they trusted?)

Personally for me to get rid of the guy, most probably, (unless he touches me, no pepper spray...yet...) i may talk to him for a while, (just to be polite) and start acting cold.. to guys who approach me, with the intention to pick me up, i don't know why, but i usually automatically go into "cold" mode anyway.. unless I'm interested that is... :p

haha speaking of which, i still recall one guy, when i was in my first year of law.. a suspicious guy, really. I saw him at the Kelana Jaya LRT, and i walked home, to see him at the junction near my road, and he started to ask if i was interested to be a model..

Now.. he has no business card, and is sitting in his car, asking me stuff like that.. and chatting me up.. i became distant and cold.. (automatic reaction)

He asked me for my number.. guess what i did?....

I said give me yours, if i'm interested i will call you.. haha... he was taken aback.. guess that was the first.. he gave me his number.. and after that.. when i was out of his sight, safely locked in my house.. i deleted it haha.. well that's me.. i wasn't interested, in what was suspiciously a (potential) pervert...

But alas.... not many guys (more like rarely) does any guy pique my interest (thus being labelled by friends as the "ice queen".. heart of ice eh...).. i might have very high expectations, or my time hasn't arrived yet... well, there are also the lack of eligible guys i guess, or maybe i analyse too much.. and blow him off, especially when i find that his personality will definitely clash..

Take for example, one of the guys.. after just going out with him to have a meal like twice.. it was enough for me to determine his personality, and realise that his personality with mine will clash... I'm like that.. sad for me....

But i do prefer to start from friends.. but having mixed with guys so long.. most of the time i tend to forget i'm a girl, and i'm one of them.. or i don't know, i feel like I'm being treated like the favourite little sister... :p

Oh well, not that i'm looking or whatever, instead my mother is worried over my lack of interest, as i adopt the "come what may" attitude, though sometimes i get lonely, and think, "wouldn't it be nice...?" but i believe we should only enter relationships because there is a mutual feeling of like, and nothing else... Due to my immaturity i have allowed such times to pass by me.. but i guess, if it was meant to be it will be..

Now tell me, am i cold, or was it my right to act like i did?

-Oracl3-